Build A Good Work Record

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Remember when you got your first job?  I bet you were elated, especially when you anticipated earning more spending money than you ever had in your whole life.  You may have believed your life changed dramatically for the better.  You felt good about yourself and made a vow to be an excellent worker from this day on.


At the same time, you were a bit overwhelmed, wondering if you had the skills required to perform the job well.  That may have been because you were hit by numerous new responsibilities and company rules to follow.  There may have been times you feared that you might get fired.


After months of working the same job, the thrill and the stress wore off.  Attending high school and working at the same time wore you out.  Your job duties became second nature and soon monotonous.  While working, you may have had problems getting along with your supervisor or certain coworkers.  After dealing with customers, especially those who’ve complained, you’ve learned to hate people.  You may have even felt that your employer was inferior to its competitors and work conditions were poor.  If all of these things happened to you, more likely you quitted.  If not, you are on your way to building a good work ethic.


Maintaining a good work ethic is extremely important.  However, if you’re like a lot of other teens, it may not seem necessary.  You may become tired of your job and came to work late or spontaneously took days off for social and family events.  Likewise, you may have tried harmful substances in search of happiness.  Even if you lost your job, there were many other places hiring in your area and you could always get a new one just like that.  Right?   Wrong!


Nowadays, companies are cracking down on truant employees who don’t take their jobs so seriously.  Most conduct drug screening and background checks.  They review job references of each applicant too.  Employers are working harder than ever to boost employee morale and do away with the workplace clowns.  Some employers are wary of hiring teenagers.  Why?  Workers that screw around on the job cost companies serious money.


How to Develop a Good Work Ethic


Developing a good work ethic is a plus for all teenagers.  Ethic is simply a word meaning morality.  It means knowing the importance of one’s work and how it fits into the scope of the enterprise for which one works for.  The earlier age one builds a good work ethic, the more successful in life this person will be.  Not only can this person land jobs easier, but win the companionship of those he/she works with.


You too can develop a good work ethic by doing the following:


  1.  Respect your employer – Think of your employer as an individual who is trying to make his way in the world.  Like people, some businesses are more fortunate than others.  You may hear workers making derogative remarks about your employer.  While this company may not be as good as its competitors in every way, they are striving to become the best they can be.  Every single employee, regardless of their job status, contributes to the success of this business.  By cooperating on the job, you too can help them remain competitive and succeed.
  2. Know you company’s purpose – If this isn’t obvious, you may want to find out what they do to better understand the nature of your job.  The more you know about your company, the better you can perform your job and more effectively serve them.
  3. Respect their customers – Whenever you eat at a restaurant or purchase something from a store, you expect top-notch service.  How would you feel if you got a burger that was undercooked, cold, or had strange things stuffed into it?  What if you raised a complaint about your food and were cussed at by the waitress?  You would be mad and soon go out and blab about how bad that restaurant was.  Most likely, you wouldn’t eat at that place again.  Your employer’s customers are the same way.  If they receive bad service, they are likely to blab to others about how bad the place your work for is.  Hence, you must try your very best to please them and not pull pranks on them for your or other workers’ amusement.
  4. Don’t horseplay at work – If you see your coworkers mess around, the temptation to join in may be strong.  Such horseplay can involve throwing food around or playing recklessly with company equipment.  Teens do this to acquire a false sense of control over their employer or as an act of revenge.  This may be fun for them, but will hurt their employer’s success way more than they realize.  Respect company equipment and use it only as it is intended to be used.  Horseplay causes accidents and injuries.  Such mishaps will cost your employer and will more likely cost you your job.  If you have the urge to mess around, save it for times when you are not in public.
  5. Abide by company rules – All companies have a great number of rules to work by.  While some of them may seem unnecessary to you, there are legitimate reasons for all of them or else they wouldn’t exist.  They are not doing this to deliberately make your life harder or miserable.  Don’t complain about them to others.
  6. Maintain good attendance – Remember, whenever you skip work to go to a fun event, you’re only putting extra responsibilities on the shoulders of your coworkers.  If you are really sick or have a cold, then it is best to stay home, but refrain from taking time off unless you absolutely have to.  Your supervisor depends on you and you are committed to providing the necessary service to keep your company operating.  Your employer is temporarily handicapped without you.
  7. Don’t curse your job – So you feel that your position is the lowest in the company.  This is not true.  Your work is just as important as everyone else’s, even the manager’s.  If your job was unimportant, you would not have been hired there in the first place.
  8. Respect your coworkers People are people.  There are going to be some people you don’t like or those who have habits or opinions you don’t agree with.  Remember, not everyone thinks and acts like you.  We were all brought up in different settings by different parents.  You can’t change them.  Fighting with your coworkers only hinders operations in the workplace.  Talking about them behind their backs can backfire on you.  If bad talk gets around, you just made another enemy.
  9. Go that extra mile – Do everything you can to keep the workplace clean, safe, and running smoothly whenever possible.  If you find a mess on the floor, clean it up, even if it’s not your normal job duty.  Be willing to stay a few minutes extra if it means doing some little chore you don’t normally do.  If the manager asks you to do a job, do it and don’t argue.  Arguing will only hurt your job security later on-it will never save you from work.  Such behavior makes you hard to approach by others and unpleasant to work with.


10. Give notice before you leave – Never quit on the spot.  Even if you think the job is horrible or the work conditions are bad.  If you must leave, your employer will need to replace you.  Depending on the nature of the job, finding a replacement may take a while.  Without you, there remains a “hole” or shortage of labor until, of course, your position is filled.


Again, building a good work record is important.  It tells prospective employers what kind of worker you are.  Remember, the quality of your work says a lot about you and if you’ve messed around on your first job, it will make it much harder to find your next one.







Technophobia – Fear of Technology

Automated teller machine (ATM) produced by NCR

Automated teller machine (ATM) produced by NCR (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Many of us, especially senior citizens, fear technology.  Indeed, there is an official name for the fear of technology: technophobia.  Technophobia applies to those who are extremely afraid, so afraid that they’ll avoid things like computers, mobile devices, ATM machines, and even medical treatments that involve high tech devices.

My Fear of Technology

Deep down inside, I am fighting technophobia every day and have been doing this all my life.  It isn’t easy, but the cost of avoiding technology is much greater than not.  Where did I get this fear?  It may have started as I had trouble operating electronic devices as a kid.  Because of my extreme nearsightedness, I had to look at every gadget extremely close, such as handheld calculators or stereo equipment.

I would try operating these things only to flop again and again in frustration because the thing I wanted it to do wouldn’t work.  I would even get teased by my foster siblings because I had difficulty making things work.  I had to look hard to find the decimal key on the calculator.  We had a single dial microwave and trying to read that dial required glasses.

I grew up in the 1970s where things were quite simplistic as compared to now.  If you wanted to call somebody, you would have to call from a landline phone.  Once you called someone and they weren’t home, the phone would ring indefinitely until you hung up.  You couldn’t leave a message and they would never know you called.  If you needed to deposit or withdraw money, you would have to drive to the bank, and oh, don’t forget your bank book!  If you did, that meant driving back home to get it.

Then came the birth of the ATM.  In the late 1970s it was just an idea as I heard that you’ll be able to make bank transactions without actually going to the bank.  How could that be?  Sounds absurd!  In the mid 1980s I too began using it and enjoyed the convenience.  I also learned that you could make deposits by inserting an envelope of cash or checks into the machine and at first I’m like: “There’s no way in hell I’m going to do that!”  Eventually I did and likewise, enjoyed the convenience.  Nowadays, there are ATMs that allow you to slide a naked check into the machine, whose image will be photographed before it goes into your account.  Yikes!  I’d rather go to the bank.

Now look at us today.  Most of us have home computers and are communicating over the Internet.  Yes, this idea was neat from the start.  Just think about all the trees we’ve saved by having it.  Now there are a countless number of portable devices, many with touch screens where one can roll through numerous pages of icons in seconds.  Even though I watch the CNet channel, I still am trying to understand what makes each device different from another of its kind.  I’ve seen commercials where two Smartphones (I think that’s what they were) were slammed together as a means of one person making a payment to another.  I still fear the day that I’ll be doing that.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the convenience of cyberspace.  It took me awhile to convert from conventional LPs to MP3s.  “What?  MP3 files!  What the hell are those?”  In the 1980s I became accustomed to my personal cassette stereo and the CD walkman.  It wasn’t until 2007when I got my first MP3 player and loved it as well.  Now I wonder why I ever went through the trouble of wearing my CD player around my neck and toting a case of CDs around.

Then my brother got me an AT&T phone for Christmas in 2010.  I’m like, “What’s wrong with the phone I have?”  My old phone had a keypad and crystal screen-nothing more.  This new one had a larger screen full of icons and a slide out keypad.  And now there is the texting feature.  Yikes!  It’s all I can do to type on a desktop keyboard.  We had trouble with it at first and took it into Radio Shack where he bought it.  While talking to a rep, I felt like flinging the new phone across the store, out of pure frustration.

My Best Friend’s has Technophobia

We’ll call him “David” to protect the cyber-paranoid innocent man.  Dave doesn’t own a computer and never intends to buy one, even if he earned big bucks.  I coaxed him to learn to use a computer and he would do so for awhile and quit.  Since he lives six states away from me, I tell him how great it would be if he had an email address and we email each other rather than send paper letters via snail mail.  That was ten years ago and he still refuses to do that.  He will not even use a library PC.

I pity him.  David just refuses to do things online.  He won’t even set up an email account because he’s afraid that people are after his personal information.  It was all he could do to get his cell phone and that frustrated him so much, he slapped it against a table.  He’s missing out on a lot of good stuff.  Why?  Because he is technophobic!

About Technophobia

Some people fear technology to extreme levels.  Their fear is so immense that it greatly hinders their everyday lives.  Techno phobics may refuse to use an ATM machine, thinking it will not disperse the right amount of cash or it might cause their deposit to become lost in cyberspace.  Like David, some refuse to use computers thinking they may become victims of identity theft.  Others simply fear that running high-tech devices is extremely complicated and they don’t have the ability to figure them out.

However, senior citizens are known to have technophobia since they are accustomed to the lifestyle they had as children or young adults.  To them it’s like “Why do I need these gadgets?  I’ve always lived without them and I would prefer to do things the way I always have.”  In fact, many of them are intimidated by modern technology.  They may perceive new electronics as large unnecessary expenses or things that are too complicated or confusing for them to learn to use.  Some simply resist technology and attempt to go on living as they learned to live.

Those with an extreme level of technophobia may experience the following symptoms:

  • Panic or anxiety
  • Shaking
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Uncontrollable sweating
  • Shortness of breath
  • Adverse emotional reactions

What causes technophobia?  To date, there is no clinical data that directly links to technophobia.   A logical explanation may be that it was caused by one or more events that happened in the person’s past that brought on their feelings.  Bad experiences or failure to adapt often attributes to technophobia.

Therapists usually resort to cognitive behavioral therapy in treating their patients.  This form of treatment helps a patient:

  • Get rid of destructive thought patterns
  • Identify distorted thoughts and beliefs
  • Transform negative beliefs into positive ones
  • Build a better self-image

Each patient meets with the therapist who helps them gradually face their fear while learning to control their behavior and unfavorable reactions.  Peer groups have been proven effective in helping the affected person overcome their fear.  Anyone who is willing to assist an individual with technophobia and teach them how to operate electronics or appliances can help one with technophobia.

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Those Who Are the Center of Attention

Protester Harassment

Protester Harassment (Photo credit: Occupy Global)

Do you know anyone who has to be the center of attention wherever they go?  How do they behave?  Are they happy, spiteful, or egotistical?  Do they annoy you or stress you out after a while?   Are they unpleasant to be around?  This post touches down on those who need to seek constant approval to stay alive. <p></p>

As human beings, we have a constant need for social interaction and feedback.  We need to interact with others to give us a feeling of self-worth.  While some receive the recognition they need from coworkers and stable relationships, others go to great extents to get attention from anyone they can.

Those who feel they must be the center of attention are usually emotionally immature.  It is likely such people lack self-esteem and confidence.  Likewise, they are insecure and in order to offset their personal voids, they deliberately create situations that will draw attention their way.

It’s like, when you’re around them you may have trouble getting a word in edgewise.  Some talk, talk, and talk so much that it may drive others absolutely bonkers.  Some also speak loudly as if they can’t get their words out fast enough.

Although stealing the attention of others helps put out the fire of insecurity that burns within, the relief is only temporary.  Because the problem that lives within such people remains hidden, their self-esteem, confidence, self-love, and self-worth remain low.  Even those that tend to boast about themselves are doing so as an attempt to cover up for their inadequacies.

You’ll know when you have come across such a person just by observing their behavior.  This character may be a bully or harasser, especially if they try to deceive or manipulate you.  He will attempt to make you feel like he is your superior and if he doesn’t get his way, he may raise his voice or through temper tantrums.  Likewise, he will do anything to avoid exposing his true nature and taking responsibility for his own actions.

There are several types of attention-seeking people as characterized by what they do to be the centerpiece of any situation possible as follows:

  • The sufferer – This is the person that seems to become ill or prone to injuries quite often.  Their so-called illness or injury is portrayed to be more intense than it really is.  These people get attention by others by seeking sympathy and manipulating people emotionally, sometimes making them feel guilty because they don’t have the same illness the sufferer has.  In more severe cases, attention-seekers may have Munchausen Syndrome (a factitious disorder).  One such act may be a woman who expresses herself as a repeated rape victim.  Such a person seeks attention through her “oh woe is me” sobbing stories.
  • The savior – Here is the type of person that will intentionally cause harm to others, but once an adverse situation arises, they will act as one who will save the lives of their victims by posing as a knowledgeable source.  For example, one may engage in neighborhood vandalism done after dark and pose as a party to protect their victims from it happening to them again.  This form of behavior is often referred to as Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy.
  • The rescuer – This person will take a role in troublesome situations only if they believe it will be beneficial for them.  She then will bask in the glory of taking credit for her considerate humanitarian actions.  Once she finds someone suffering from a misfortune, injury, illness, this person becomes vulnerable.  Meanwhile, the rescuer builds a dependent relationship between her and the rescued.  Such an act can be used to exploit the sufferer and gain more attention later on.  Instead of loving the person she is rescuing, she is resentful towards them.
  • The take-charge person – Although she attempts to make everyone think she is organizing things and is always in control, she is not.  All she wants to do is to become the center of attention.  Another similar role is the busy bee.  She loves telling everyone how busy she is doing stressful chores as a means of keeping things run smoothly.  Though she never has time to sit down or a moment to herself, she always has the time to tell others how much she has to do.
  • The manipulator – This person creates attention for herself by putting guilt on the shoulders of others, especially in family situations.  Though she may have no intent in harming those vulnerable to her exploitation, she may pretend she is being victimized, persecuted, excluded, or ignored in order to receive sympathy or help from others.
  • The feigner – When one is in trouble or being confronted for an adverse situation they caused, the person will break out in tears.  Even bullies and harassers may cry to convince others they are the victim of bullying or harassment.  By crying, these people get others to feel sorry for them and console them as they present a false sense of innocence.
  • The false confessor – Here is one that will confess to crimes they haven’t even committed as a means to get attention from the police and the media.  Some even confessed as being serial killers even though they lack significant evidence of harming others.  Such people are known as serial confessors to police.  Others may feel they were pressured into committing a crime through inappropriate interrogation tactics.
  • The victim – to make others believe she is the victim of harassment, she might send herself hate mail or even destroy her own belongings as a means of incriminating a coworker, a family member, classmate, etc.  She then tries to make it evident that someone else harassed her or harmed her in any other way.  In a devious and manipulative way, she will identify the villain.  At the same time she will bask in the attention of those who emphasize with her.

When we think of bullies, we tend to think of tough guys who are conditioned not to cry.  However, serial bullies are apt to feign for attention and act as if they’ve been victimized when this is not true.  For some, being a serial bully adversely affects their job.  Those who interact with clients or customers have been known to have a high turnover rate and low morale.  Employers often spend more money on correcting the consequences of the sufferers than they do their clients.  Those who attempt to relieve the victim from suffrage only become vehicles that generate attention for these serial bullies.

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