Do you know anyone who has to be the center of attention wherever they go? How do they behave? Are they happy, spiteful, or egotistical? Do they annoy you or stress you out after a while? Are they unpleasant to be around? This post touches down on those who need to seek constant approval to stay alive. <p></p>
As human beings, we have a constant need for social interaction and feedback. We need to interact with others to give us a feeling of self-worth. While some receive the recognition they need from coworkers and stable relationships, others go to great extents to get attention from anyone they can.
Those who feel they must be the center of attention are usually emotionally immature. It is likely such people lack self-esteem and confidence. Likewise, they are insecure and in order to offset their personal voids, they deliberately create situations that will draw attention their way.
It’s like, when you’re around them you may have trouble getting a word in edgewise. Some talk, talk, and talk so much that it may drive others absolutely bonkers. Some also speak loudly as if they can’t get their words out fast enough.
Although stealing the attention of others helps put out the fire of insecurity that burns within, the relief is only temporary. Because the problem that lives within such people remains hidden, their self-esteem, confidence, self-love, and self-worth remain low. Even those that tend to boast about themselves are doing so as an attempt to cover up for their inadequacies.
You’ll know when you have come across such a person just by observing their behavior. This character may be a bully or harasser, especially if they try to deceive or manipulate you. He will attempt to make you feel like he is your superior and if he doesn’t get his way, he may raise his voice or through temper tantrums. Likewise, he will do anything to avoid exposing his true nature and taking responsibility for his own actions.
There are several types of attention-seeking people as characterized by what they do to be the centerpiece of any situation possible as follows:
- The sufferer – This is the person that seems to become ill or prone to injuries quite often. Their so-called illness or injury is portrayed to be more intense than it really is. These people get attention by others by seeking sympathy and manipulating people emotionally, sometimes making them feel guilty because they don’t have the same illness the sufferer has. In more severe cases, attention-seekers may have Munchausen Syndrome (a factitious disorder). One such act may be a woman who expresses herself as a repeated rape victim. Such a person seeks attention through her “oh woe is me” sobbing stories.
- The savior – Here is the type of person that will intentionally cause harm to others, but once an adverse situation arises, they will act as one who will save the lives of their victims by posing as a knowledgeable source. For example, one may engage in neighborhood vandalism done after dark and pose as a party to protect their victims from it happening to them again. This form of behavior is often referred to as Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy.
- The rescuer – This person will take a role in troublesome situations only if they believe it will be beneficial for them. She then will bask in the glory of taking credit for her considerate humanitarian actions. Once she finds someone suffering from a misfortune, injury, illness, this person becomes vulnerable. Meanwhile, the rescuer builds a dependent relationship between her and the rescued. Such an act can be used to exploit the sufferer and gain more attention later on. Instead of loving the person she is rescuing, she is resentful towards them.
- The take-charge person – Although she attempts to make everyone think she is organizing things and is always in control, she is not. All she wants to do is to become the center of attention. Another similar role is the busy bee. She loves telling everyone how busy she is doing stressful chores as a means of keeping things run smoothly. Though she never has time to sit down or a moment to herself, she always has the time to tell others how much she has to do.
- The manipulator – This person creates attention for herself by putting guilt on the shoulders of others, especially in family situations. Though she may have no intent in harming those vulnerable to her exploitation, she may pretend she is being victimized, persecuted, excluded, or ignored in order to receive sympathy or help from others.
- The feigner – When one is in trouble or being confronted for an adverse situation they caused, the person will break out in tears. Even bullies and harassers may cry to convince others they are the victim of bullying or harassment. By crying, these people get others to feel sorry for them and console them as they present a false sense of innocence.
- The false confessor – Here is one that will confess to crimes they haven’t even committed as a means to get attention from the police and the media. Some even confessed as being serial killers even though they lack significant evidence of harming others. Such people are known as serial confessors to police. Others may feel they were pressured into committing a crime through inappropriate interrogation tactics.
- The victim – to make others believe she is the victim of harassment, she might send herself hate mail or even destroy her own belongings as a means of incriminating a coworker, a family member, classmate, etc. She then tries to make it evident that someone else harassed her or harmed her in any other way. In a devious and manipulative way, she will identify the villain. At the same time she will bask in the attention of those who emphasize with her.
When we think of bullies, we tend to think of tough guys who are conditioned not to cry. However, serial bullies are apt to feign for attention and act as if they’ve been victimized when this is not true. For some, being a serial bully adversely affects their job. Those who interact with clients or customers have been known to have a high turnover rate and low morale. Employers often spend more money on correcting the consequences of the sufferers than they do their clients. Those who attempt to relieve the victim from suffrage only become vehicles that generate attention for these serial bullies.