This article is NOT an advertisement for a positive thinking course. I will not post a link that will bring you to a website selling you such a program. I am not out to sell anything: just give you good advice and save you money and dismay as well.
Forms of Self-Help Programs
As you know, there are lots of self-help systems and books out there that promise a great transformation in your life by adopting positive thinking techniques. Such courses promise success in your career, business, wealth, marriage, and overall happiness.
You’ll see them advertised in infomercials and hear testimonies of how people improved their lives by this course. These infomercials are typically long and created to draw and retain you attention while playing on your conscience that by not trying their program, you’re throwing away a great opportunity. Either you purchase their course or just go on living the fruitless life you’re living now. Such courses are advertised indirectly through luring web advertisements that promise overnight changes for little or no money.
Hence, all you need to do is complete “our” course and BAM, you’re a brand-new person. Right? I would not make such an assumption!
On the flip side, I’m not saying they’re full of bogus information. Every course touches down on good points such as making affirmations and adapting positive “self talk.” However, before you can actually benefit from one of them, you must be willing to dedicate time for listening and put forth great effort on your behalf.
Meditation, Yoga, and Religion
There are other commercially sold techniques to promote positive thinking. Some are based on meditation, yoga, or other exercise programs. People will push religious materials at you as they promise overnight changes in your life. They will ask you to read the Bible on a daily basis, attend weekly church services or studies, and preach the word to everyone you know, converting them to “born again Christians.” I am not bashing religion, but it comes with no guarantees. In fact, most of us naturally shun religion and its practices because while growing up we were conditioned to do so. I suggest one reads the book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner. It is widely available wherever books are available to the public.
These Courses Are Financial Traps
Frankly, they’re all just a waste of time and money, even the cheap ones. Take it from me, I tried some when I was young and naïve and my life hasn’t changed.
Most of them come in the form of audio books with numerous tapes or CDs plus workbooks and DVDs. Seeing their complete self-help kits on TV or on the web will make you think, if that amount of media is necessary to teach positive thinking, then this program has to be highly effective.
Some advertisements will display the price of their course on the TV screen. If they don’t, this should raise a red flag that a bull can spot from a mile away. Others will disclose a flat rate of say $99. Then they’ll follow up with a prompt like: “Call in the next 10 minutes (or respond online by a certain date) and we’ll slash the price by 50%. Next, they’ll offer to add in free supplements as additional books, CDs or DVDs “Absolutely Free!”
Don’t forget the “100% satisfaction money-back guarantee.” This leaves most gullible consumers with the conclusion: “What have I got to lose? I can always get my money back if I don’t like it! I’ll try it.”
The trouble with money-back guarantees is they are for a limited time only and require a seemingly great amount of effort to act on them. Not only is there the repackaging and sending the content back, some fear that their return will be rejected. Still, some say they’ll try the course thoroughly but don’t or forget how long the trial period is good for. With all the potential problems, many just keep the course and rarely, if ever use it.
So you call to order the $99 course mentioned above, thinking you’ll get it for $49 (plus taxes). Right? Wrong! Once they got you on the line, they’ll make you feel like you’re doing a mighty great deed by trying their program and your life from this moment on is on the up and up.
Next thing you know, they’re making additional recommendations to supplement your course as in subscriptions to magazines, newsletters, listings of seminars to attend, etc. Without them, the course won’t be fully effective. If you’re not hard-nose enough to say “no” a hundred times or hang up, your cost of $49 turns into say $249. Ouch! You hang up the phone and ask yourself resentfully, “What the hell did I just do?”
Their sales team reps pray on people who don’t realize that all this information is already available at their local library.
Others are free local seminars or perhaps, webinars. Though they are seemingly free, just wait until you get your foot into their door. You’ll sit through a 3-hour talk session just to find out it ended with a recommendation to buy their program. If you don’t buy it, you’ve invested 3 hours of sitting and listening-all for nothing. Next thing you find out, the price of the program is astronomically high. What do you do, whip out a “piece of plastic” (credit card) or just walk out. I recommend the latter.
Why Positive-Thinking Courses Don’t Work
I’m not saying you can’t succeed at one of these programs. They do offer great pieces of advice that you may never think of yourself. Still, you must devote a lot of time and effort on your behalf to make their info work for you. If you don’t do the work, you don’t reap the results.
However few people ever succeed for the following reasons:
- We expect instant results: If we don’t see positive changes, right away we become impatient and abandon the program. Although the advertisements profusely promised overnight changes, for few if any individuals, such changes come about. What we don’t realize is that these changes happen over time.
- The time commitment: This may mean lying in bed for a few hours a day or meditating in a quiet place at home for 15 or 30 minute sessions where you won’t to be disturbed by the ringing of the phone, crying babies, the doorbell, etc. You must lie down, close your eyes, breathe deeply, follow along with their sessions, and hope your daughter doesn’t suddenly barge in on you. For most of us, our busy lives are much too busy to take on new activities.
- Awkward activities: For example, you may have to do therapeutic talk sessions with others. This may require interacting with family, friends, co-workers, relatives, etc, that’s if you know very many people to begin with. Those you do know are always busy, unwilling to change, or don’t believe in self-help programs period. Most likely, you’ve had unpleasant experiences with family members and relatives which caused you guilt or remorse. Thus, these people are hard to approach and likely to refuse to participate. Friends and casual acquaintances are not willing to participate in such activities unless maybe you can sweet talk them into doing so. Some may resent you for asking and think of you as another solicitor. This just might damage a few relationships.
- Self-consciousness: Many of us naturally shun infomercials and the products they sell. Others are strongly convinced that they are overpriced garbage. Therefore, the individual who purchases the course must establish a mutual agreement with their significant other and others they respect. They must agree that purchasing the course is financially feasible and well worth it and doing the activities will not interfere with others in the household. Finally, the course will suggest its trainees to post notes and pictures around the house as reminders of keeping certain things in mind throughout the day. These notes say things like “I am just as worthy as anyone else” or “Nothing in my past can affect me today”, etc. For some, posting notes is not their style, especially for immaculate people. Others may worry about what household members or visitors would think if they saw them. For the self-conscious, such a practice may not be an option.
- Unresolved emotional issues: People who turn to these programs for help sometimes have unaddressed and unwanted emotions. Some have pent up feelings of guilt or inadequacy that stems from rejection, failures, or mistakes, etc. Feelings of anxiety, guilt, or worry have a nasty way of hanging on for years and cannot be dismissed at one’s free will. Others suffer from depression, mood disorders, or adverse behavioral conditions that may stem from a natural chemical imbalance. Self-improvement courses only make positive suggestions, but do not offer psychiatric advice. Therefore, those with emotional problems must successfully undergo professional counseling before attempting to complete the course. Nobody can sell you a solution to your emotional problems. If you fail to seek treatment, your feelings will only hamper your progress in the course.
- Change in attitude: Attitude is essential in success, even if you’re not affected by any of the previous conditions. Some may just get sick of the course after awhile or form opposing beliefs towards its content. Such people are likely to make excuses as why it’s not feasible to complete the course or that they’re not the type of person it was intended for. They will just abandon it and continue to live as they always have.
If you are absolutely serious about developing positive thinking habits, by all means go for it. Rather than purchasing an online or TV course, resort to resources that offer free or low cost books or audio books on the subject. This may be your local library or online. If you feel you need professional help, don’t refrain from getting it. Worst of all, don’t deny it. If you have negative emotions pent up inside or lack of confidence, seek advice on how to deal with or remove them. Research forums or other venues of information on those who have the same problems you have. You may be surprised at what you find out.
Remember, money can’t buy you happiness. Self-improvement courses are often overpriced and sold for profit only. Not only are you paying for the materials, but you’re paying the overhead in producing and selling them. That includes the costs of renting rooms in convention centers, traveling expenses incurred by the reps, TV advertising time, professional speakers, and all other affiliated prices.
All the publishers really care about is turning a profit-not how much (or little) their program benefits you. Pitching in for these expenses will never improve your outlook on life. Why not check out a book on positive thinking at the library where you can read it for free?
Please feel free to comment on this blog. If I said anything incorrectly or left something out, please let me know. Genuine comments only please.
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